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Karen (seems DaJuju has influenced me) went out at 9 am to meet MeeMee at Ang Mo Kio MRT control station - yeah, same district as her boyfriend... smelt something fishy? definitely...

She went to meet up with him first, I call up Meemee HP and leave her "his" HP number; I know she needs it sometime later. As expected, long story short, Karen reached Meemee's house at 3pm.

Anyway, this goes to show the system Ken and Meemee used to direct Karen is more or less similar. Why? Answer this simple question, in the event of Karen travelling to Meemee's house and met a mishap. Who is answerable? Ken? For granting Karen, Or Meemee? To allow Karen to travel alone only because she had to work and "for whatever reason" is unable to fetch Karen personally? Should they not be more responsible?

Anyway, this is the same reason why I fetch Karen from my 2nd Gugu to our home at Tampines in the first place. Too much word, too little action. All talks but nothing has changed. During my NS days when I returned to accompany Karen at Serangoon during my leaves, 2nd Gugu never talks to Karen. She mostly returned home to sleep. Irresponsible?

Somehow I feel like shouting out loud "All I want to say is they never really care about us!" in Micheal Jackson style.

There is also a special visitor today. 2nd Aunt (my mum's sister, NOT 2nd Gugu, who is my dad's sister) came along with AhMa (my mum's mother). She wanna try helping out with Karen after she heard about what happen.

We had a very constructive talk, and I benefited alot. She talked about how she dealt with her ex-maid, who became defiant under the protection wing of her in-laws. She also mentioned of her approach of dealing with her in-laws, and her colleagues and subordinates. Her approach is very similar to mine, preventive measures.

However, there is still a difference here, a MEGA one. She is dealing with outsiders, not a family member. Not one that one had invested so much time and effort to nuture. Its easier to discard the former but for the latter... it is WRONG to discard... and the easiest choice is to ignore...

I told her about Ken current way of working as of now. He is trying to build a bond with Karen, but he did not realise the bond between Karen and her friends are MUCH stronger - a situation where the latter will conveniently overwrite the former. I also told her about how Ken told me that he is preparing to let Karen "hit the wall in her face to feel the pain". Then who will be responsible for the harm done to Karen? Karen herself? Why correct when it can be prevented?

2nd Aunt kept silence and only reply to request Karen to come to her house and let her try... hopefully all goes well... she did asked for me to reconcile with Karen, but I stated that is impossible unless Mum forgives her first... only then I will consider. She also asked for me to collaborate with Ken, which I cannot do so. I cannot accept Ken's system of working? To take the risk, lets the risk materialised then resolved? WTH is wrong with his logic? The issue here is that he had wronged but he fails to see his error...

He had already violated all the principles of Risk Monitoring, Management and Mitigation (RMMM). On the fair side, he did monitor (by calling home time to time to check on Karen and SMS "his" HP) but NO mitigation done, NO actions. Preventive-wise nor Corrective-wise. just like on 7th May 2007, he TOLD me to handle Karen at Jessica's house while he stayed at home.

Still, I told 2nd Aunt that I can only, and already had, helped in acting as eyes and ears for Ken, the rest is up to him.

This conversation is dear to me. It goes to show my system is not entirely wrong (I was also doubtful about my system earlier and reviewed it rigourously),
(1) its that the product failed to gone throught the whole course of my process,
(2) the failure of the lesser people to understand the entire situation and only jumps into the bits and pieces they withheld.
(3) TOO many noises, and nothing constructive.

At least and at last, there is still one who understand me and my system very well, for 2nd Aunt had adopt such system of working and it had been very successful for her in personal life and in work, albeit tiring at times for it requires consistent effort.

Mum, thanks for the event today for it had given me the answers I much needed, and it had renewed me with the rigour and the direction I should take.